Last night I talked with a friend about what a challenge it is for each of us to receive help around finances. We each carry the thought that we created our situation, so it must be our responsibility to solve it. We each expressed the thought that accepting financial help from someone would only increase our feelings of failure.
Today I was listening to a CD called “Speaking Peace” by Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Non-Violent Communication. He shared a song by Ruth Bebermeyer called “Given To” and there was one particular thought that completely captured my attention:
When you give to me
I give you my receiving;
And when you take from me
I feel so given to.
What a remarkably different way to view the whole idea of giving and receiving help! What if, in allowing someone who loves me to help me, I am actually giving them a gift? I know that there’s truth in that from the other side – I feel joy in being able to give to others. So why should I assume that they would feel anything other than joy in giving to me?
It’s a lesson that I’ll need to spend more time with. I know that it’s one that’s going to prove valuable in the months and years to come.