This morning I got an unexpected email from my mom saying that she couldn’t sleep and her thoughts had settled on me. “I just want to tell you that I’m proud of you.”
Wow! It meant so much to hear that come out of the blue. And it stopped me long enough to admit to myself and to her – I’m proud of me too. Over the last week a lot of big stuff has been rearranging itself in my mind and my world, and I’m watching a reflection of that happening in your posts as well.
So here’s the deal – today, let’s find ways to be proud of ourselves. And let’s acknowledge it to each other.
And a quick distinction – there IS a difference between being proud and being arrogant. I think too often we shy away from acknowledging ourselves for the good that we’ve done or the good that we are because we’re afraid it will appear arrogant or selfish. But if we can’t acknowledge our own good, then we’re reliant on other people to see it and acknowledge it for us…which leaves us always at the mercy of other people’s opinions of us.
I think the difference between the two – proud and arrogant – is how we use our acknowledgment of ourselves. If we use it to look down on others and feel better than them – or to make ourselves feel better at someone else’s expense – that’s arrogance. But if we can acknowledge our own good without requiring it to mean anything about anybody else, that’s a healthy kind of proud.
Double points to anyone who posts an acknowledgment of how proud they are of themselves today. (Okay, okay – I know there are no points in The Challenge. It’s sort of like the old TV show Whose Line Is It Anyway? – where the points don’t matter! That’s right, the points are just like the “International” in “International House of Pancakes”. :-) Yes, I really just went and found an old clip of Whose Line and stole that.)