Day #2 apart from Mr. Blue Eyes and I’m still standing!
While he was here, I ended up going to bed at 9:30 most nights because that’s when he would fall asleep and I wanted to be with him. So out of habit last night I went to bed at 9:30. Without him there to cuddle up to, I was wide awake for quite a while. This being apart thing will take some re-adjusting.
One day he came to me and asked for help loading some photos from his camera to the computer. That’s an area where I’m really strong. I remember him remarking at how he felt like he was asking a huge favor and being a terrible bother…but it made me really happy to be able to help him. And it meant that the task got done quickly and I got to spend that time with him. It was a total win-win-win for me. I got to help him and spend time with him and do something that made him feel happy. What could be better?
Turn the tables, though, and I still have to work on my tolerance for receiving. For instance, one area that I still need to work on is finances. That’s an area where he has experience and a bunch of technical knowledge, so I’m able to lean on him as I work to get my act together. When he spent time over several days building a spreadsheet to help me look at various financial plans, I felt like it was too much. I wanted to tell him to stop because he was working too hard on my behalf. His take on it? He really enjoyed doing it! It’s an area he’s really good at (so I’m guessing it was fun for him to show off a little) and he got to help me and see me happy.
Each of us still has to work on being okay with receiving. But the fact that we have strengths in areas that really support each other is a huge gift! It is actually FUN for each of us to help the other. How cool is that?!?